Let’s talk about suicide
A seven letter word which is associated with so much stigma and confusion; a word which has become synonymous with selfishness. A word, people are quick to point a finger at, quick to scoff at, but slow and sluggish in understanding what it really is. So, what is suicide?
Suicide is the act of intentionally ending one’s life. It is coming to the conclusion that living has no benefit, there is no silver lining in the stormy clouds hovering over someone’s mind, there is no light at the end of the tunnel.
Do the above thoughts sound familiar to you? No? Well congratulations, because a lot of people wake up to the golden sun and these constant parade of thoughts. Imagine rising from bed with these thoughts, going through the day with these berating tortuous thoughts, and finally after over 16 hours awake with these thoughts as a companion, laying on the bed still with these thoughts. It gets exhausting.
This does not even come close to the mind of a suicidal person, but I hope it gives you a glimpse of it.
So, word on the street is someone attempted suicide.
“Such a selfish boy/girl”, would probably be some of the first things you’d hear.
“And his mother is a good woman, he didn’t even think of her”,
“children of nowadays, very inconsiderate. Small thing now, they want to die”.
Have you ever stopped even for a moment to ponder-
what happened to this girl which was so bad that she decided to stop living.
What experiences have this boy gone through to make him decide to take this decision.
Have you ever pondered over the why’s?
We live in a society where everyday, the newspaper rolls stories of Incest and rape. Children and adult are constantly assaulted, and the culprits, in most cases, walk scot free. We live in a society where victims are stigmatized, where mental illness is stigmatised. A person would rather die with whatever thoughts are haunting him than profess the statement- “I think I need to see a psychiatrist”.
We live in a society where the moment emotional distress projects out of our mouths, the devil is blamed and numerous visits to clerics are undertaken.
Before we point a finger at others and label them selfish, let’s rotate the direction of that finger and look towards ourselves first of all.
Let’s hold ourselves accountable for that friend or family member who expressed their emotional distress to us but we ignored;
Let’s hold ourselves accountable for our words and our actions, which may have just been the trigger to push another person over the edge.
Let’s hold ourselves accountable for turning a blind eye to the troubles of others even when they place it at the edge of our feet.
Rather than calling suicide selfish, how about we place ourselves in front of the mirror and call out our own selfish actions.